Have you ever had one of those days that was a "really important" day in your life?
Of course you have - we all have those days. Whether it is a big meeting with a potential client, an interview for a new job or promotion, or even something important that happens in your personal life - a graduation, marriage, birth of a child, or any other event that makes that day feel important to you. The more days we have like that, the more fulfilling and enriched our lives become.
There are, however, what I believe to be the four MOST important days of your life.
This one is easy...the day you came into this world is by far one of the most important days of your life. Without it, you wouldn't be here and the world wouldn't be the same!
I know that there are some people who celebrate this day each and every year - they look forward to it and enjoy it, because after all - it's YOUR day. There are others who view this as "just another day" and don't want anyone to make a fuss about it. Either way, I believe it is one of the four most important days of your life and everyone should treat it as such.
Think about this - it has been well documented that the odds of you even being born are 400 trillion to 1. That is an insane statistic. I highly doubt anyone in Vegas would place ANY bet on those odds. Based on that statistic, you are a miracle and should celebrate that!
Take time on your birthday to recognize the fact that you deserve to be celebrated. Whether it is filled with fanfare, tons of people, and a huge event - or it is low-key, spent with someone you care deeply about, and is quietly celebrated, spend time actually celebrating the fact that the world was blessed to have you in it for another year.
The Day You Find Your "Partner for Life"
If you already have found your "partner for life", then congratulations, you've experienced two out of the four most important days of your life. What designates someone as a "partner for life"? I believe there are several traits that qualify in order to fall into that designation.
A partner for life should be someone who you care about deeply and, in turn, cares about you deeply. This person is someone who will be by your side for the rest of your life (hence the term...partner for life). If you are down, they pick you up. If you are up, they work to help keep you there. They truly care about and are interested in what is happening with you.
This person also needs to be someone you can trust - someone you can reveal your true colors to without judgement. When they say they will do something or be somewhere, you know, without fail, they will do it. Even when there are disagreements, you know they will have your back.
Your partner for life should be someone you genuinely enjoy spending time with. Although I am a firm believer that the only person responsible for my happiness is me, I also feel that a partner for life should be someone who you look forward spending time with. They should make you laugh, make you cry, make you think, challenge you (respectfully of course), push you to become a better version of yourself, push you to chase your dreams and be willing to live those dreams out with you. They should also be someone who is willing to have you do the same for them.
Everyone needs to find their partner for life - sometimes it could take longer than you might want, but when you find them, you'll know it. I am lucky that I found mine 19 years ago and get to spend the rest of my life with her. That day was definitely one of the four most important days of my life.
The Day Before You Die
I hope this day is many, many years from now, but I believe it still qualifies as one of the most important days of your life. Why?
On the day before you die, you will look back on your life and recall all of the people you've met, all of the places you've been, all of the things you've done, and all of the relationships you've fostered over the years. This will be the last time you will get to spend with people who care about you - the last time you will get to hear their voices, see their faces, feel their touch. You will get to smile as you think about the legacy you are leaving behind. You get to go out on your own terms and feel at ease knowing that you were able to do all of the things you wanted to do in your life.
This is one of the most important days of your life.
The most important day of your life is indeed, today.